Work for your relationships



It takes perception, intelligence and reason to have a good attitude.


Whether you have a romantic relationship, a friendship or any other types of “ships,” how hard are you willing to work on your well-being in order to ensure that the relationship survives? 

Put that aside for a bit. Has there been anytime that you have felt that you do not fit within a group of people, or felt as if you weren’t good enough? How did that make you feel? 

As humans, we are given three natural gifts: perception, intelligence and reason. Far too often we find ourselves in an emotional split, too afraid to venture into the unconquered territory of individuality to uncover the true potential of our being. We allow ourselves to be consumed by past experiences, falling back on what we have accomplished and not what we could possibly accomplish, resulting in a fixed mindset and a lack of growth. 

Our subconscious has now been subjected to carry the weight of that self incurred tutelage, and we find ourselves doubting the universal laws of courage and competence, leading into insecurities and the unnatural order of habit. But as humans, is it not our given duty to be curious and seek the hidden truth? 

For example, do we not question why the college charges us for parking, or why Piazza is better than Rialto? And with this, a new problem arises, because with our conscience in such an emotional state, we are unable to deter the difference from realization and resolution. 

We make the assumption we are not subject to change because it is not an immediate one, laying down limitations and restrictions on our lives that we had believed were as natural as they were unnatural. This is where our given human superpowers are vaguely applied, as we all differ in mind and ability. 

Our internal perception of ourselves varies from that of those who see it externally. Analyze multiple perspectives to identify a common pattern, and use the power of intelligence to apply your knowledge and skills to create a solution.

 Finally, the power of reason will wire our brains into remembering the consequences of repeating that pattern. In today’s society, we are encouraged to question any and all answers, whether it is internally or externally, and are discouraged from the dangers of habit and daily repetition. Now we return to the initial question and hopefully can resolve it, even if we already know the answer: whether you have a romantic relationship, a friendship or any other types of ships, how hard are you willing to work on your well-being in order to ensure that the relationship survives? 

I cannot speak for the rest of you but can only provide my personal insight on the matter. I recently reached an unfortunate point with my friends where I was ready to give up on myself, and it seemed like the conclusion of my friendship with them. There have been multiple occasions where I was responsible for an argument, which led me to believe that I was the problem. 

My friends made it clear to me that I was not the problem, but my attitude, way of thinking, and going about things was. When they told me they still loved and cared about me, I knew what I was willing to do for them and for myself. I listened to their feelings, identified the reason, and am applying my knowledge to create a solution. Although it is going to be hard to separate my past experiences from the present ones, I cannot simply just “go with the flow” and continue the way I have been. I need to feel that flow, interpret it, live it, and love it.